in 7 years its going to be the 20s again so we can bring back swing music and the aesthetics of that era but keep modern values who’s with me
you can’t repeat the past
can’t repeat the past? why, of course you can! of course you can.
That’s the nature of any creative activity — you’re mostly going to be rejected.
The New Yorker’s Bob Mankoff at a recent TED salon. When Mankoff quit psychology school in 1997 to become a cartoonist, he submitted 2,000 cartoons to the New Yorker that year. Of them, 2,000 were rejected. Today, he is the magazine’s cartoon editor.
Pair with the fantastic Fail Safe and Ray Bradbury’s advice on perseverance in the face of rejection.
My university has a semi-annual “undie run” during finals week (it’s exactly what you think it is — college students run around in their underwear at midnight in defiance of finals).
I’ve heard mixed reactions from non-participants: “I don’t feel comfortable showing my body” and the like,
Or, it could be that men are not seen as sexually desirable so that could be why she doesn’t see men running around in their boxers as sexual.
Okay, devil’s advocate, let’s say that was her perspective. It only proves that society has over-sexualized the female body to the point where it is seen as inappropriate for a woman to leave her home showing “too much skin” (a subjective idea in and of itself). Possible consequences of this perspective: rape victims are blamed for allowing themselves to be targets for rape.
Agreed, this is something that needs to be fixed.
With that said, women and men need to take their safety seriously. We tell kids not to play with matches because we care about their safety. We tell women and men that if you walk down strange streets and alleys at night, things could happen. Hence, carry a firearm at best or pepper spray at least, no matter if you are dressed as a nun or are only wearing electrical tape over your breasts to the point that you would need to tape the firearm to pepper spray to your body.
The idea behind telling women to watch what they wear is ridiculous especially since nearly all rapes are done not by strangers but by people known to the victim and the victim’s clothing style mattered not at all to the rapist.
Although, as a social commentary, we tell women to watch what you wear because it could be misconstrued as a sexual invitation. We also tell everyone that if you are wearing an orange jumpsuit, you will be raped, no ifs ands or buts about it, and that since you are wearing an orange jumpsuit, that means you deserve it and deserve the laughter we send your way.
I gather these were your main points: Women should not be told what to wear, but rape is a reality and precautions should be taken. Agreed. Would you, in turn, agree that perhaps a more effective precaution would be to teach society that clothing is self-expressive, not a sexual invitation? After all, telling women to avoid specific alleys or certain styles is not saying “protect yourself from rape” but rather “make sure the rapist gets someone else.”
I assume by orange jumpsuits you are referring to rape in prisons which is a horrific problem that I am ill-qualified to comment on beyond believing that more effort should be made in preventing it.
Rape happens. Just like murder happens. Hell, dolphins rape. Rape is not going to disappear, no matter how well society understands that clothing is not a sexual invitation.. you will just end up with cops that do not ask what you were wearing when the rape is reported and millions of clothing fetishists who will not know why they find certain clothing sexy.
And yeah, telling women to avoid areas or styles IS saying to make sure the rapists rapes someone else. Just like we tell kids to watch both ways is saying to make sure the car hits anyone else but you. Or when people carry firearms openly, it is saying to mug someone else. Nature is full of similar warnings.
Prison rape is horrific. If the US counted prison rape statistics with the gender population, there would be more men raped each year than women. Awareness of this issue and fighting to prevent it is one of the things the MRM is fighting for.
The difference being, of course, that victims of assault and murder, for example, are not blamed for the crime other than incidentally being in the wrong place at the wrong time, whereas complete blame is often placed on victims of rape.
[I’m not ignoring your discussion of prison rape, but I decline further comment because I’m afraid I just don’t know enough about the issue, though I intend on learning more.]
Oh, people are blamed, especially abuse victims; “Why didn’t you leave” sort of crap or “You should have known” shit.
That’s a very valid point (sorry to but in but its rare i head two people have such a well respective argument and i must say i can agree with both of you in such ways) about victim blaming. This happens so often in society; murder, theft, abuse, attack ect. Not just rape. And i believe it is wrong no matter what the situarion is. How often do people say things such as “well its your own fault for having your phone in plain sight ofcourse it would get stolen” ect. Its not a correct thing to say because in our society the display of items of value should not be an invitiation for them to get stolen.
When children get bullied sometimes/often people will blame the victim rather than the bullies themselves: “they shouldnt dress like that” “they should be less of a nerd” “They should have learned to fight and protect themselves”
Theres always another excuse to blame the victim.
Its not right, its a terrible situation, but its something that we have in a lot of situations and that can be applied to people of all sexes.
Then I guess we’re all agreed that victim blaming is relevant in many circumstances and more should be done to bring attention to this issue. But how does an issue go about gaining such attention?
Public Awareness is the best bet, followed by and with political powerhouses like feminism. People need to realize that there are issues that affect men, some rather severely, some still codified by law and not just society. People need to realize that the current model of “Well, if men have issues, we won’t care about them until women’s issues are all fixed” is no different than people saying “Look, hispanic and native americans might have problems, but we are not going to do anything about them until all of the problems that african-americans face are 100% fixed”.
That’s not a very good comparison, considering that hispanics, native americans, and african americans are all minorities oppressed by the privileged white majority. Since (according to the government) gender is binary, women are not the “minority,” but women have been/are oppressed by the privileged male population.
There are many issues which affect men; this much is true. However, there are very few that affect men exclusively or in which men are the majority of the sufferers. Victim blaming, as we have discussed, is a general issue which affects people of all walks of life. As you suggested, educating the public on this issue is probably the most effective method to decreasing it’s relevancy.
“you shouldn’t be depressed, people have it worse than you”
finally, after years of searching, the person with the worst life ever is found. formally, they are granted permission to be sad. but only them. only they have earned it. no sads for anyone else at all ever
apparently my school made the senior dinner great gatsby themed
because what better theme for a graduation party than the inaccessibility of the american dream